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By Sr Bernadette Mary Reis, fsp

There is at least one woman religious who wakes each morning and mucks out stables. Christmas is no exception. But there are other reasons as well why Sr Mary-Joy is exceptional.

Childhood

Mary-Joy was born in 1951, and grew up in Battle in East Sussex, about 80 km south-east of London. Her childhood was not exceptional. Possibly becoming a sister was on her to-do list, along with being an elephant trainer, and participating in the Olympics one day.

She struggled in school due to dyslexia that went undiagnosed. But she “loved doing things”, and discovered that she “learned through horses”. Working on the family farm taught her the skills she would eventually put at the service of countless others struggling with various disabilities.

Making history

Mary-Joy made history in 1976 when she responded to an ad for firefighters, surprising the men who opened the door when she knocked and said she wanted to join them. She thus became the first female firefighter in all of Europe in peacetime.

Her days included working on the farm and going out to put out fires when she was contacted through the pager she was equipped with.

Giving others an opportunity

Special needs children would also come to her family home, where Mary-Joy would teach them how to ride. Some came from difficult backgrounds, some came from London, and some would spend the weekend.

While the children were on the farm, they delighted in being with the animals, seeing where eggs come from, for example. Through the horses and ponies, Mary-Joy was able to help them develop and “give them an opportunity”, as she describes. This was, and still remains, very important to her.

“Life was exciting and full of beautiful things”, Mary-Joy says looking back at her time as a firefighter. Then she adds that being in a few life-threatening situations in which she may not have made it home, introduced a certain seriousness into her life. During that time, her faith and trust in God began to grow along with an “understanding of divine support”.

Leaving home

In 1984, shortly after leaving the fire service, Mary-Joy entered the Congregation of the Sisters of the Infant Jesus, a Congregation founded in France by Nicola Barrè, now present in many parts of the world, whose primary apostolate is the education of children, especially the most disadvantaged.

Both of her parents had died recently, leaving Mary-Joy with the responsibility of finding homes for all the “beautiful animals” that “meant so much” to her before entering the convent. It wouldn’t be long before she would once again be surrounded by her “beautiful animals”.

The dream begins

After professing her first vows, Sr Mary-Joy's first assignment brought her to Liverpool. A few years later, she moved to London.

Then in 1989, Sr Mary-Joy recounts, “I was offered the opportunity of taking on three small ponies. I initially declined the opportunity as several years earlier I had given up my own horses to enter religious life. But my Provincial at the time encouraged me, saying that I was good with children and good with horses, and it was important to use the gifts that God had given me”. With those three ponies, Sr Mary-Joy began what would later become a full-fledged riding school.

The land she found and brought the ponies too had no buildings, stables, toilets, electricity, nothing. After raising money for a Congregation project in Peru, one of the sisters there told her it would be better to raise money for her own project as they were much better off than she was.

Sr. Mary-Joy with another horse

Dream fulfilled

How did she do it? “It was just enthusiasm,” she explains, and the good will of many people who have come and gone throughout the years to help her a little bit.

From absolutely nothing in 1989, the Wormwood Scrubs Pony Centre now has a host of horses, ponies, donkeys, dogs and cats, and a full staff. A large indoor riding arena was added in 1994.

The Centre is a hub for students from special needs schools, young adults with mental health, special needs, and learning difficulties. Even people with dementia and children with physical disabilities benefit from equine therapy.

Here, Sr Mary-Joy has developed an educational program to benefit those who come with personal human development, teaching them life skills so they can achieve what they want in life. Some of the life skills children can learn are fire safety, first aid, caring for animals, learning about the environment, and, of course, how to care for and ride a pony.

Sr Mary-Joy has a string of initials after her name – IJS (her Congregation initials), BEM (British Empire Medal, awarded by the Queen for “services to Disabled and Disadvantaged Children), Fellow of the RDA (Riding for the Disabled Association), BHS APC (British Horse Society Accredited Professional Coach), Pony Club accredited coach, ABRS Principles DIP, UK Sports Coach Educator L3 M.Uni Open.

Dedication and hard work

Due to hard work and dedication, as well as the collaboration of countless volunteers, it is estimated that over 11,000 people have benefited from Sr Mary-Joy’s life work.

“If you dream,” Sr Mary-Joy says, “it will happen.”

In her estimation, the Wormwood Scrubs Pony Centre is a miracle – “It never would have happened if I had planned it out,” she says. For Sr Mary-Joy, her personal life and religious calling flowed naturally together.

In a world in which academic performance is highly prized, she proves that anyone, including people with learning disabilities, can achieve great things.